If a child has a medical issue of bed wetting then definitely he can wear diapers. If your children want to wear a diaper because they like it then it’s ok to let them wear. In both cases, there is nothing wrong with your child. Your child is perfectly normal. This is common is some boys and girls. But mostly this practice is adopted by boys. Your boy will not tell you why he wants to wear a diaper. There is a term known as “transitional phenomenon and transitional object”. This is a common thing and most of the children experience this phenomenon.
Furthermore, a child at the age of 11 can wear diapers at night if he/she still urinates on the beddings. A recent report by the National Foundation for Educational Research shows that most students are being introduced to school while in diapers. The same report shows that one in every ten children in school wear diapers even when they are past ten years of age.
One teacher from the school reported that she knows a case of an 11-year-old who wears diapers. So what makes the difference and why should an 11-year-old wear diapers?
A child may love to wear a diaper because of infantilism
This is the first personal possession that a child will face when he is facing anxiety or depression. When the mother is not there with the child then obviously the first possession will be the diaper. You can say it is like a blanket or a teddy bear. These objects are always found to be made up of very soft texture. So this thing should be made you afraid or ashamed. Child psychologists are well aware of this phenomenon and it should be taken and dealt seriously. There is well-researched documentation on this that is published in lots of journals.
Some people don’t know about the infantilism
If your 11 years old child is wearing a diaper don’t insult him on this act. For healthy development, it is necessary to build a strong bond between your children and parents especially the mother. If your child wants to wear a diaper it does not necessarily mean that he wants to use it. This will provide him a soft and gentle feel that he needed badly.
This feeling will realize them you are always there for them. Babies also love to enjoy the feeling of a soft dry diaper. Again, there is a mother behind this who put that soft diaper on the body of a kid. One most important thing if your child is wearing a diaper keeps it as a secret. Don’t tell this to others to humiliate your child. If you do this your child can sometimes make a suicidal attempt as well.
There can be some uninformed and ignorant people that can hurt you and your son very badly. They will make fun of your child. So keep such issue private. Again it is not an abnormal phenomenon. Build trust between your child and yourself. So that he can share issues with you.
Why boys become diaper lovers?
Many of the boys will spend a lot of time to find out why it happens to them? But it is not an abnormal phenomenon. Some boys will like to have a soft blanket or teddy bear and some will like to wear diapers. All are fine. There is no issue in wearing a diaper. A diaper is a perfect choice for kids until they become potty trained. When they become a little old they are taught that a diaper is not a good thing, and they have a conflict in their mind.
If an 11 years old child wants to wear a diaper without any medical issues he can do that. He might be looking for some love. He might be looking to go back to his childhood times. Where he was loved or hugged by everyone. So that might be the reason for a child wearing a diaper.
Some boys have issues of control. Like some boys messed and peed in their pants. So it will be more shameful for them. Some children don’t want to be potty trained. So what to do? Allow them to wear a diaper. This will provide them mental satisfaction. Everyone can wear a diaper irrespective of the age factor. People can wear a diaper either they are a kid or they have kids.
Some children wear a diaper because they have bowel or bladder issues. But some children wear it because they simply like it. In both conditions, it is normal to wear a diaper. When you come to know that your child is suffering from infantilism. Take an appointment with a doctor. You can also play your part in avoiding this bed wetting issue. Take care of the diet especially at night.
Don’t take cold drinks, coffee, and soda water before going to bed. Chocolate is also dangerous for those who have this issue of bed wetting. You as a parent can set up an alarm. Wake up your child 2 to 3 times in a night this will save him from bed wetting. After dinner does some walking or spends some time in other activities then go for sleep. In this way, you can deal with the issue of bed wetting.
There are some medical treatments also available for this issue. If you think it is uncontrolled contact your physician and gets the solution to the problem. If you can control it by yourself then it is very good. Communicate effectively with your child. Let him know to take it easy. Don’t just insult him. Listen to their concerns and provide them a proper solution. If they are happy to just wear a diaper let them do. Don’t stop him.
Appreciate and understand the feelings of your child. Tell him you are not the only one who is facing this issue. It happens to me when I was your age. This will not embarrass your son. There are lots of reasons for this bed wetting. A major reason is an anxiety or depression. Try to find out the issue your child is facing. Then provide him the solution or encourage him to deal with the problem.
If you don’t have frankness with your child, there will be some family members who have an attachment with your child. Take their help. They might have this issue with their children in the past so they can guide better about this. So we can conclude that 11 years old child can also wear a diaper.
What can you do?
The above are not the only reasons why 11-year-old children start to wear diapers. There are additional issues which mean you have to first of all factor out the root cause before you try looking for a solution. So the first thing to do in such a case is to talk with the kid and if possible ask for reasons. After that, you will be in a better position to solve the issue once and for all.
Monitor drinks and foods before bedroom
After noticing the kid has issues with controlling their systems to hold pee, I would advise taking time to monitor drinks and foods before bedtime. This will make sure the bladder is not overly full throughout the night. There are also some foods that can irritate the bladder and initiate pee. So, avoid coffee, soda, and chocolate.
Positive visualization
The best thing to do is to teach the child all about Positive Visualization and at the same time help them utilize the powers. Let the child try to visualize themselves waking up dry and everything will follow.
Take the kid to the doctor
If the child has any troubles controlling the pee, maybe there are some underlying medical issues that only a doctor can deal with. So, always consider taking the child to the doctor.
Help with stress and depression
When the kid is depressed and stressed, there are some reasons why you should help with that. Else the child will be stressed and this can lead to additional issues.